Genuine: possessing the claimed or attributed character, quality, or origin
Sincere: free of deceit, hypocrisy, or falseness; earnest
Authentic: not false or copied; real
I may be admitting a perceived shortcoming here, but I’m a WYSIWYG: what you see is what you get. I believe in sincerity and genuineness. That’s not to say I can’t be polite, compassionate, and easy-going. But odds are if you think I like you and enjoy your company, I do. I won’t go out of my way to make it known when I don’t like someone, but I will go out of my way for people I truly enjoy.
How can real bonds and relationships develop without being real in the first place? Real relationships aren’t fair-weather. They aren’t about “how can you help me?” but “how can I help you?”
Rather than adding to ourselves, trying desperately to find something that will define who we really are, maybe we should simply strip away everything extra, leaving only the core of our authenticity, finding what really makes our hearts sing. The ability to be real comes from knowing who we are and not trying to fake anything else. It’s not worrying about looking good to others or how we’re presenting ourselves to the world.
I recognize the people who are real by how I feel after I’ve been with them. Some suck my energy, and I feel emotionally exhausted and drained. But with real people, I feel nurtured; I feel heard. They know who they really are and are able to forget themselves and lift others.
It takes courage to be genuine, to not hide behind some seemingly more pleasing persona. But it’s also rewarding. I’ve found that people are more receptive of others when they think they are being genuine. I know I am. I let my guard down, give more of myself because authenticity = trust. You get what you give, and if you don’t give genuine, sincere, and authentic, don’t be surprised when you don’t get that in return.
Quote credited to Cheryl Carson, here.